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It may also be helpful to get to know yourself on your own, first. Spending sober time becoming familiar with your body intimately can help you better communicate your needs to someone else when you feel ready for that step. When I was drinking, it never occurred to me that I was an introvert. I would have classified myself as someone who loved to be around people and go out with them at night. Thinking back to before I was sober, I usually had to drink to be around people.

At some point after college, it just didn’t matter if someone had a meal that was four dollars more than mine, or if they ate more edamame, or even if they had one more drink than I did. Not only because my portion of the check is significantly smaller than anyone else at the table, but also because I refuse to invest in Big Alcohol. It’s seen as normal to drink, and quitting that drug can feel like breaking a social pact. So your bold, life-improving decision to not drink will mean changes almost everywhere you look. Here are some surprising (and not-so-surprising) occurrences that will inevitably happen to your relationships, your identity, even your free time, and how I’ve learned to deal with each one.

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When I stopped drinking, not only did my recovery dictate that I needed lots of time to myself, lots of self-care, and lots of nights in, I discovered that I was, in fact, someone who relishes in alone time. I recharge when I’m by myself, and I deplete when I’m with others—especially big groups. In these moments, I have to remind myself that recovery isn’t just about not drinking; it’s about remembering that I am first and foremost responsible for advocating for my own well-being and boundaries. This is an opportunity to assert for your needs, and therefore assert your worth. Before I quit drinking, I never really used to care about dividing the bill down the middle with a group.

• Finding ways to relax after a hard days work WITHOUT reaching for the bottle?
• I would have classified myself as someone who loved to be around people and go out with them at night.
• Every minute that you avoid relapse, you are proving to yourself that you have the power and capability to make your life what you want it to be.
• As we are looking for ways to become sober and we mingle with people who are going through their sober journey, there is always talk about how awesome it is to be teetotal and live in sobriety.
• At some point after college, it just didn’t matter if someone had a meal that was four dollars more than mine, or if they ate more edamame, or even if they had one more drink than I did.

Sure, I could choose to use drugs or alcohol but negative consequences would pile up. There are a lot of people who are forced into sobriety. Some of them have hit rock bottom, some are on probation, some are forced to by their caretaker. Regardless of your reasoning behind being sober, you don’t have to be miserable. There are ways to become reasonably happy without drugs or alcohol.

Being sober sucks

This might seem like a terrible thing; this is not a terrible thing. This is a JOYOUS and wonderful thing because it easily sorts out the ones that have a weird relationship with alcohol, or the ones that just aren’t for you. It will hurt (pretty bad at first), but in time you will come to see it as the gift it is—and you won’t waste time getting to know the wrong person. So if all of your friends drink alongside you, then there’s no issue, right?

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• Personally, I always thought drunk people were fun, and I didn’t want my own poop relationship with alcohol to stand out.

Please post only when sober; you’re welcome to read in the meanwhile. When you use and abuse any substances, it takes time for your body and mind to heal. If anyone tells you being sober sucks that it is an easy process – it is not. It is absolutely achieaveble as you have already proven to yourself – but remember that the thoughts of relapse do and will happen.

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My whole life revolved around the substances, from my social circle to how I spent my free time. You take the substance away and it’s like taking away all I know. I didn’t know that there was a whole world out there to explore. I didn’t realize there’s cool people who don’t use drugs and I could pick and choose who to hangout with. It took some time and effort to adjust, but after time I found hobbies, interest, passions, and a vision for how I wanted my life to turn out.

If you’re like most drinkers, you’ve likely surrounded yourself at some point with a group of people who also drink. I’d argue that many of us gravitated to a group of friends who have drinking habits that align with our own, and we did this because we didn’t want sober friends. Just because it “seems” like things will never change, that is not actually the case.

And these thoughts can quickly become something that we start to believe – and we act on these thoughts and decide that ‘yes being sober sucks’, and we end up getting hold of booze. Finding ways to relax after a hard days work WITHOUT reaching for the bottle? What type of void are we creating by leaving behind something that has been a long-standing part of our lives .

• I socialized with people more because people are more fun and entertaining and easy to talk to after a few glasses of wine.
• You have already accomplished so much by choosing to stop using drugs and committing to sobriety.
• Sometimes, it is the little things you may not realize are having a significant impact on your ability to cope.
• I would go on walks a few times a week because getting high and walking is super fun.

I have always hated the feeling that I’m putting people out or being difficult. The life I had before I quit drinking was a lot like Groundhog Day; I was always waiting for it to begin and always reliving the same stuff, day after day, year after year. When I finally walked away from booze at 34, my life opened up. I can honestly say sobriety is the best thing I have ever done for myself. It was my jumping-off point into a life I knew I had buried inside of me.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

If you try your best and are patient, with time, sobriety will be something you’re grateful for. All change sucks, but getting off drugs is a positive change. I hope this helps if you struggle with the mentality “I hate being sober”. In early sobriety I would tell myself “I hate being sober!